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Asking Someone for a Date
 First
- two deadly questions not to ask:
Do not ask, "You want to go
out?" it's too open-ended and can lead to awkward follow up
conversation.
Do not ask, "What are you doing Friday night?"
It's too vague. It may leave your potential date wondering
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The other person doesn't know if
you're just curious about what she/he is doing on Friday
night or if you want to do something with them..
Try something along the lines of:
"You like to rollerblade? I was thinking of going out to the lake on
Saturday. It's great out there. Would you like to go with
me?"
Or if you're
really uncertain or uncomfortable about getting together - go
with a group.
Ask the question:
"Hey, there're a
bunch of us going bowling on Saturday. Would you like to
go?"
The operative word here is "us." It immediately takes the
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Planning activities to do on your date and getting together
in a group are good ways to go - especially if you think you
or your date might get "tongue-tied."
If you're busy or there are a bunch of other people in the
conversation, you won't hit awkward silences and won't have
to talk all the time if you don't know your date very well. |
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In summary, just
remember when you are asking someone out:
1) Plan ahead
Know what you are going to say AND what you want to suggest
to do on the date.
2) Be specific
The other person will be much more comfortable if they know
exactly what your intentions are and what you want to do.
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Try
to relax and enjoy yourself - worst case - they'll say they can't
go out and you'll find someone else who will. Someone who
appreciates you.
In other words, if the person you are asking out doesn't have
enough insight to recognize what a terrific person you are, then
they're just not too bright now, are they?
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