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Depending on who goes first, decide what possible outcomes or
solutions would be acceptable to you. Take a look at it from
your partner's viewpoints and decide if these solutions would
be fair to them. What do you feel your partner wants from the
situation? Revise your outcomes or solutions around what
would still be acceptable to you, but also accounts for your
partner's best interests.
The
next partner should now follow |
Agree on
a "DOABLE" compromise. Don't take one step forward only to fall
two steps behind. A compromise should be considered a promise.
You don't want to have one partner following through with their
promises, and the other lagging behind. That will only create a
relationship filled with resentment.
Agree on
a future time, right then and there, to talk about things that
may come up. Ideally, you'll want to agree on a date a week in
advance. It is crucial for any relationship to have "us" time to
talk through issues or problems you may be having. You'll find a
weekly check-in date will help dramatically decrease the amount
of flair-ups in your relationship.
Compromise is a way of helping each other find a solution that
benefits both people. When you start looking at solutions to your
problems this way you can't help but gain a happier relationship,
which in turn creates a happier you!
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